You are sitting home alone, feeling sad that things are over, but don’t despair, there are ways how to get her back after a breakup. As long as you are absolutely sure that the relationship is worth saving, there are some simple things you can do to get back together. However, you do have to keep in mind that if she really doesn’t want to be with you there won’t be anything you can do, but realistically you will know how she feels.
Take time apart and be patient
Sometimes you just need a break to work out how much you mean to each other. You may already know that you care about her a lot, but a break will make these feelings even stronger. This will be the case for her too. She will be doing things alone that she used to do with you, and she won’t have you to talk things over. If she has any feelings for you, this time should help her realise these as she will have time to miss you.
It may be a cliche that absence makes the heart grow fonder, but if there are some flames to kindle it will help to be apart for a while. However make sure that you aren’t tempted to keep getting in touch. You need to give her enough space to be able to go through a number of different events without you to realise she doesn’t like being alone. Ideally wait for her to get in touch with you, but after several weeks, you could just get in touch to see how she is and ask if she wants to see you again.
When you see each other again, you will both have had time to reflect on how you feel and you will be keen too catch up and see each other.
Don’t Stay in Getting Depressed
You need to make sure that you don’t put your social life on hold waiting for your girl to come back. There are two reasons for this. Firstly your confidence will go down a lot if you stay at home and you will seem very desperate if you meet up with her again in the future. It won’t be hard for her to spot that you haven’t been out, this won’t show you in your most attractive light.
If you are out and about socially your friends or her friends may let her know. If you are seen talking to other girls this may be enough to make her jealous enough to want to see you again. However, it may make her think you don’t care at all as you are already looking elsewhere. You will know your girl the best, and whether it is something that will work or not. Even if you don’t think talking to other girls is a good idea, it is good to show her that you are still going out and enjoying your life and hopefully are getting the attention of other girls. If she still likes you this will make her think about getting back with you again.
Talk to Each Other
Assuming that she wants to get back with you, make sure you give yourselves plenty of time to talk through everything that went wrong. Don’t stop there though, try to find time to do this regularly through your relationship. Set aside at least one day a week when you just have the opportunity to talk. Even if you seem to only talk about trivial things, it is the talking to each other that is important.
Good places to talk are during a meal when it is just the two of you. Sit opposite each other and make sure there aren’t distractions like the TV on or children around. Give yourselves the opportunity to talk properly. The bath is another good place to talk as you can sit opposite each other and there is no choice but to talk. You might prefer to take a drink out to the garden and sit and watch the sunset and chat, or snuggle on the sofa. Whichever it is try to give each other lots of eye contact and really listen to what the other says. It makes a great difference to any relationship, even one that is going well.
So the best ways to get her back are to give yourselves space to think and move slowly. However, don’t stay in feeling down, go out and enjoy yourself so you keep up your confidence and show her that you are in demand from other women, but only flirt if you think she will respond well. Then talk to each other so that you share all your problems to help keep your relationship strong.